Hi all,

as you all know, a couple of months ago we had a steady influx of spam comments. We're still getting a trickle of them in vaginapagina - and any that we don't delete might result in another spike.

On the other hand, CVP will be a little easier for the maintainer team to manage if half of it isn't spam reports - and since our last attempt, LJ has actually rolled out sticky post functionality to communities! So please keep reporting spam, and please do it in comments to this post, which will stay at the top of CVP until we decide it's no longer necessary.

Thank you! You're all awesome. :-)

--alex
for the VP team

http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21611141.html

I wasn't sure if the sticky spam post was just for comments or posts as well, so I figured I'd err on the side of "make sure it's seen."

This post appears to be spam: http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21598082.html

I think it's been removed, but it is still available on the liveweb: http://web.archive.org/liveweb/http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21598082.html

The OP has not been banned.

The wording in this post concerns me because of how bisexual people are seen. This person may be confusing bisexual people with those who cheat, or that bisexual people are at a greater risk of STIs, and as a bisexual person myself, this is offensive and perpetuates a harmful stereotype. Please consider investigating.

http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21592772.html

Please check out this post: http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21588819.html It's really offensive.

The second part of this comment makes me really uncomfortable.  Not sure if it's a safe space violation but feels a bit sexist and overgeneralizing, not to mention it's making gender assumptions.
http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21492333.html?thread=249634925#t249634925

Not sure where to post this, but I figured the mention of a safe space was a good reason to share this.


Originally posted by haloedone at Victim Blaming 3 : A Safe Space

http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21493423.html#comments
:)

Greetings, folks! You may remember that I posted a survey several months ago about people's experiences with menarche (first period) for my research project. The paper is coming together and I'll be presenting at a conference at the end of this month. I have two questions:

1) May I post in VP to update the community about the research and let them know about the conference?  Then after the conference, may I link to the paper and presentation?
2) I'm collecting images for my presentation. Because I'll be mentioning VP, I was wondering if I could use a screenshot for my presentation? Not the main page with posts, of course- maybe the vulvapedia or something else that doesn't have anybody's questions or personal info? Is this okay? If so, what page(s) are acceptable?

Thanks for all you do,
Caroline

I got an invite to join that community. Is this something that y'all know about, or is this a random drive-by invite? It sounds nice, but invites out of the blue always make me twitchy.

The OP writes about their excitement over possibly being pregnant and the commenter writes "LOL."

What?

Not appropos?

http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21461770.html?thread=249314826#t249314826

Ext has no clue about the safe space...

This post:
http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21453361.html?view=249237297#t249237297

I don't think the OP has been back to their post to see the comments, but wasn't sure if it was something where a SSW would be beneficial for future readers, even if it doesn't result in a specific change?

Hey everybody!

It's MMMMonday, and while we don't usually promote our MMMMonday posts here, this one seems very applicable to CVP. We've put up a social/get-to-know-you thread in VP so we can all have a chance to hang out together, because as lovely as VP is, we tend to have a bit of a one-track mind ;)

Come on over to VP and hang out, chat, and ask us anything!

In reference to: http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21404454.html

I'm not sure that (people in) this community even has the right to say whether someone should or should not break up with the person they're seeing, especially not on the information presented in a few vague sentences. "He beats me and I don't like it," is probably enough to say so, but there is a line between this entry and that example and I think we crossed it somewhere.

One comment that I didn't want to further derail the discussion with semantics:
that it is therefore the other person's responsibility -- and "should" does imply responsibility --
I hate to nitpick, but semantics is important here: we don't know what words he used. We don't know if HE said "should." We can't pick apart his intention without knowing it, and we can't pick apart the words he used without knowing them. All we have is one person's side of the story, and when feelings are hurt + summarizing the situation, it's easy to *COMPLETELY UNINTENTIONALLY* summarize in such a way that this mobbing is the result, because we don't have enough information.

I've hurt my partner's feelings plenty of times, and he's hurt mine. That isn't in and of itself a reason to break up. People are saying it's time to dump this guy because he hurt her feelings, and I think that's a completely unrealistic view of ANY relationship. The issue isn't that he's hurt her feelings or even that he's done it repeatedly. The issue is when that hurt becomes intentional after they've discussed it. I've only seen a couple people suggesting anything about talking to her boyfriend about what he said. Shouldn't our first advice be to communicate with your partner? And should we be demonizing someone who seems to have followed that advice?

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you can read my entire post under the cut i bolded the part that was brought into question.

i understand that this community is a safe place for ppl to discuss sexual content, health related inquriries, etc questions and i love that there are soo many helpful ppl. i never meant for my last bit of advice to come off as i was blaming the girl for the abuse she suffered. i kno from my personal experience, i'd never tell another female that she was the reason why a man harmed her. but she did admit that she drank alot. i just wanted to warn her against getting drunk && not knowing wat was going on around her. 

i do apologize. i never meant to make anyone feel like i was blaming them. i'll be more careful with how i word my advice in the future.

P.S. i deleted my comment and editted it && re-posted it. i hope that's ok.

Read more at VaginaPagina: http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21359035.html#ixzz2GK0FDC1J

Hi all,

I was wondering if it would be appropriate to share this link to VP - it seems to be a really great resource for Native communities in the States and Canada.

http://www.nativeyouthsexualhealth.com/

Can I be unblocked now? It's been more than 30 days.

http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21334683.html?thread=248279707#t248279707

http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21334963.html?thread=248279987#t248279987




Is this a bot? 

http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21314514.html?thread=248065490#t248065490

This comment is probably well-meaning, but it judges the OP for having not seen a gynecologist yet and uses the term crazy insensitively.

I don't know if this is against the rules, it just struck me as a bit odd. I've noticed that this one particular poster has commented on several posts with exactly the same comment: Thank you for sharing

http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21305852.html?thread=247995388#t247995388
http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21305520.html?thread=247995568#t247995568
http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21304947.html?thread=247995763#t247995763
http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21304387.html?thread=247995971#t247995971

The posts that they are commenting on aren't information posts, they are people asking questions - so the comment seems a bit out of context.

They also posted the same comment on this post: http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21303684.html?thread=247996292#t247996292 which I did have an issue with. The post was distressing and mentioned cutting and infertility - and a 'thank you for sharing' really struck me as being an extremely inappropriate response here.

Anyway, like I said I don't know if there's really any rules being broken, but it seems a bit strange so I thought I'd just let the mods know.

http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21279071.html

I just wanted to let you all know about this post. It really has the potential to be shaming. I have real issues on policing women's bodies and there being a right number of sexual partners.

Thanks.

http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21275495.html?thread=247715175#t247715175

EDIT: Locking/disabling to keep harassers from posting-and-deleting. O:p

In http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21274016.html#comments I realize that the OP explains later in the comments that they are "not a fat hater" and explains that they have difficulties with esteem issues because their family seems to have unreasonable expectations about their weight, but I really feel icky about their comments. Especially this where they are saying that, "Also, regardless of how confident big women are, people still discriminate against them (unconsciously) even though everyone knows you should never judge by size. I don't think it's fair. But it still happens"

i guess it's not against VP rules, but I just felt the need to say something to get it off my chest. 

I know this was expected from this thread and also that this is what the expected response from this community would be but this really bothers me: 
http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21253700.html?thread=247397188#t247397188

Basically, yes this woman's values and belief systems are different than most of ours but does that mean she doesn't value herself? Does everyone have to believe the same that we do to be considered to have the 'correct' self esteem? Sure, she thinks her underwear is dirty and shouldn't be washed with the penis havers in the family. These are her beliefs and culture and who are we to judge her. I think what she did to her daughter was wrong but this is the way she has chosen to live her life. 

Just my two cents. 

Hello all,

as has just been mentioned, we're delighted to announce that VP on Dreamwidth is open for business! This is a decision that comes after a lot of discussion among ourselves: we feel that DW is now big enough for it to be worth us establishing a base over there as well.

As we said in our welcome post in VP@DW, we ask that you don't duplicate content between VP on LJ and VP@DW for the time being - we think both can be viable communities in their own right - though we'll let you know if that changes! This means that if you journal on both sites, you can join both communities without seeing duplicated content :-)

I'm the main point of contact for VP@DW, and would be only too happy to answer any questions you have!

--alex

My replies to the post http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21196961.html has for some reason resulted in me being blocked from posting for 30 days.


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As a result, my reply was somehow posted below. I wish to further clarify that these comments were neither meant to derail the thread (which was already about racism,) or meant to be trollish. I was expecting my comment to be ignored or politely commented on. It is also not a "blatant defense of racism". I was pointing out that some people cry racism for their ends. I even included sources.

Hey, I'm really uncomfortable with this comment: http://vaginapagina.livejournal.com/21158437.html?thread=246344485#t246344485

It strikes me as really invalidating the OP's experience and her feelings about that, and that just made me very uncomfortable. I'm sure it wasn't the intention, but it feels a little bit... victim-blamey? Maybe that's not the right term to use, but the OP obviously felt uncomfortable and 'freaked out' and just saying that she shouldn't be angry and that she should just 'let it go' doesn't feel right to me.

Hi folks,

As you may have seen in VP, we have updated some of our policies on inclusivity, including policies on ableism, sizism, and gendered greetings & trans* sensitivity. You can read the full update over there or behind the cut here, and you can see our new sizism policy in a separate CVP post.

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If you have questions, comments, or concerns, feel free to bring them up here. If your question relates specifically to the new sizism policy, you can mention it here or there.

Again, thank you for being great members who help keep this community awesome.

-cat
For the VP Team

As you may have read over in VP, we've made some changes to our policies. Our policy on sizism is brand new and hasn't yet been updated on the site. In the meantime, the policy is pasted below. Please feel free to ask any questions or leave any comments here or in the CVP discussion post that will be up shortly.

Sizism Policy as of 9/18/2012

Weight is not automatically an indicator of health, and it can be hurtful to members of our community to suggest that everyone can change their weight if they just "try hard enough" or follow a specific plan. Many factors, including genetics and a person's medical history, can affect weight.

While you are always welcome to share your personal experience, including if weight changes were helpful to you, we ask that you refrain from suggesting weight changes to other people.

Additionally, please keep in mind that comments about weight, especially those naming specific numbers, can be triggering for members of our community who have a history of disordered eating.

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-cat
For the VP Team