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Comment thread on pelvic pain getting iffy 
27th-Jan-2015 01:20 pm

In the original comment, the commenter mentioned that if their MD says all is okay, that OP should be good. They also said, "Good luck! I'm jealous... wish I was having a good time to have a problem with! You go girl!"

I have experience with pelvic pain, including vaginal, and I wanted OP to know that MDs aren't always right, just because they're not trained in pelvic disorders and sexual pain. I also felt really dismissed by their comment on "having a good time to have a problem with." I let the commenter know that pelvic pain, including sexual pain, isn't ever a good time.

They responded defensively, saying their comment was for OP and that OPs pain is from having a new partner and trying new things. I don't really know if ya'll want to intervene yet, but I find it incredibly offensive that they think sexual pain is a good time just because someone has a new partner and is trying new things. It is absolutely not. It can be incredibly devastating, and it's really not okay they dismissed it in the first place and then dismissed it again when they were called out on it.

EDIT: more descriptive title.
28th-Jan-2015 04:06 am (UTC)
Thanks for the heads up. We're discussing this now. :)

For the VP Team
20th-Feb-2015 12:36 am (UTC)
Did you guys ever get around to this... ?
21st-Feb-2015 10:41 pm (UTC)
It's been almost a month, so I doubt they will; it likely just slipped past them. I don't think getting around to it this late in the game will make much of a difference. Hopefully the commenter doesn't repeat the mistake.

EDIT: Internet went down so I couldn't finish. Ugh. Continuing:
I used to be an SSM, so I know that they have to work by consensus. So maybe they didn't get that about this, or no one was able to take care of it and it became old enough that it was no longer a priority, especially if other things came to their attention.

It was an incredibly offensive comment, especially since they got so defensive when called out on it, but that was to me and some other VPers -- maybe the SSMs don't see it that way, or maybe something came up in their personal lives and no one was able to get to it. I think they have a lot of work for the number of people they have.

Edited at 2015-02-21 11:06 pm (UTC)
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